mummymoments

Ok so now you’re a Mom. Suddenly you have no friends and the ones you do have are busy doing their own thing. So now you’ve gotta get out there and make some new friends, other mom’s with kids in the same age range as your own. Get out there and be social, attend community events and festivals. Go to the parks, play grounds, museums. Don’t worry about not having anything in common , you’re both Mom’s and with that there is literally thousands of things you can talk about. From teething problems, tantrums, sleeping issues etc. We’ve all had them and have a story or two to tell,lol. Most other Mom’s are also looking for someone to talk to, too!!! Wether it’s just brief chit chat at the playground once a week, or you get together and do lots of different things together with your kids, on a regular basis. GET OUT THERE!!
Remember Ladies, You are a beautiful person, even if you don’t believe it, there are people in this world that think about how much they love you at least once every day. If you are a Mom (Single or not) Your child/ren depend on you, THEY ARE YOUR REASON FOR GETTING OFF THE COUCH! You can’t take care of your kids properly if you’re not taking care of yourself first!!!

When you are a parent it can be difficult to keep everything balanced, in our busy life styles. If you are finding yourself overly stressed and you can’t seem to relax, try writing it out. Ask yourself and answer these 10 questions:
1)What is it that stresses me?
2)What am I feeling guilty about, what is it that triggers this guilt?
3)What am I worried about?
4)What overwhelms me?
5)What drains me??(people, relationships, activities, situations)
6)What do I want to change about the way I spend my time and energy???
7)What Blesses me, makes me smile and brings me joy?
8)What activities and relationships do I find most satisfying?
9)When do I feel most alive?
10)What do I want more of in my life

Keep a journal either on your computer or one you keep under your matress,lol. Honor your spirit, make time for reflection, reverence and beauty. Express what is meaningful in your life, and honor special life events !!!!

Every body needs a few minutes a day to relax and decompress. ESPECIALLY a stay at home parent. It can some times be a little difficult to make time or even remember to make time for yourself each day, but you must find a way!!! Wether it’s reading the morning paper while sipping a cup of coffee, retail therapy, a long afternoon stroll(while the kids are in school) or taking a candle lit bubble bath at the end of the night!! Being a Parent is sometimes a pretty thank less job, so it’s up to you to thank yourself.

Take advantage of nap time once a week, and spend those 2 hours eating treats and watching a movie you rented just for you, or your favorite TV show.

For some reason us stay at home parents seem to feel guilty when we’re not with our children, and doing some thing for ourselves. It is OK to be out for the night and not be missing your children,lol. My son was only 3 weeks old when I left him with my dad for the first time. I went to a gathering at a friends house to have a few drinks. There were a few ladies there that asked “How can you leave him so soon, don’t you miss him” and I replied NOPE, with out feeling even a little bit guilty.(and my son is My life) They seemed shocked with my response. It’s not healthy to be so wrapped up in your kids that you have anxiety when you’re not with them. (I know a few like that,lol) ENJOY your baby free time, it can be hard to come by,lol.

Be sure to set aside some “ME” time at the very least one night every other week, to get out of the house and do something YOU enjoy. Go have coffee or dinner with a friend, or partner, go to a movie, go shopping(for yourself) Get some ice cream and take a long walk. Make those few hours you have to yourself ALL about YOU,lol!!!